JOI - Let me instruct you how to jerk off - A to Z Fetish Series

01/01/2022

JOI is the acronym for Jerk Off Instruction: a guided form of masturbation when you can relax and let someone else tell you what to do with your hands while you surrender to self-pleasure. Although I love cocks, JOI is open to all kinds of genders and genitals - including pussy, ass and prostate!

There are many ways to do a JOI session and of course, each performer adds their own style and rhythm. In this article, I'm going to talk about different types of JOI, how I was introduced to it, and how to mix with different fetishes.

As a people person, I love to connect with different individuals! Funny enough it's not limited to clients, I participate in forums and group chats with other models, places where we can share our thoughts and share tips with one another. And on the JOI subject, there's one particular individual that always comes to my mind: My friend and mentor Mistress Sylvy Sinclair who was specialized in jerk-off instructions.

One of Mistress Sinclair's favorite types was a hypnotizing detailed JOI, focused on her face and mouth, her soothing voice putting her partner in an erotic trance as she guided every step. She skillfully mixed hypnosis and mesmerizing with JOI and it worked perfectly! She's now retired but her knowledge remains alive with me.


Another way to practice a sexy jerk-off-instruction session is through body worship. Let's say you are boob loving man, how hot would it be to watch a girl playing with her tits while telling you how to play with your cock? Let them bounce up and down while she tells you to get your hands up and down your shaft. Oiling her melons while she commands you to lube your dick. This is so good, I swear I'm turned on just writing it!

I know a guy who's so much into JOI that he's called D. The Wanker, and in one of the custom videos I did for him, he asked me not only to tell him what to do with his cock, but also write the instructions on my body and point to them.

Some models like to use a dildo in their hands to show the actions they want to be done, they will touch, stroke, slap, and show the pace that it should be done, you only need to repeat her actions. Others will use hand gestures so you can copy them. Some will play with themselves as they direct your actions through words alone. There are so many fun ways to do it!


JOI can go further and lead to full orgasm control. Imagine a beautiful woman seductively telling you how to masturbate for her and when you are about to cum she decides it's not the right time, commanding you to stop. You are helpless, your orgasm is in her hands.

You could be made to edge - which means pausing just seconds before you reach the point-of-no-return. If it happens too many times you might achieve the Gooning state, getting so out of your mind that the only thing that matters is to masturbate.

In a BDSM scenario, a Domme could order you to include elements of CBT (cock and ball torture) in your masturbation session. And then she may make you ruin your orgasm - when you reach climax, but you take your hands off when it happens, forcing you to cum without stimulation. Release happens without the final satisfaction, leaving the submissive frustrated and craving for more.

One of my subs really enjoys what I call "Ice and Fire": I tell him to tease his body with the wax of a burning candle and then to rub ice cubes on his cock. It's such a turn on to see the face he makes when I tell him to let an ice cube melt all the way down his body.

By the way, there are a few safety measures you should have before playing with wax and ice cubes, please research or look for an experienced Domme before doing it by yourself.

In contrast with these intense kinds of JOI, a more laid back type is called JOE - jerk off encouragement, in which you don't have to follow throughout instructions on what to do and when, but still are told to play with yourself and erotically incited to keep going.

My personal style of JOI has a lot of teasing. As an exhibitionist by nature, I can't help but love my partner's lustful looks when I'm showing off my body and telling them what to do. I do use toys and hand gestures, yet I enjoy touching myself as I tell you to jerk off for me, at the same rhythm and intensity that I'm doing.

Being mainly a kinesthetic person, I'm fully committed to providing utter awareness. Starting with the visual part, I will make you look at my body, I'm always wearing something sexy that leaves some to the imagination. You'll be made to touch yourself as I strip my clothes and tease you with my feminine attributes.

Then going to the auditory realm, I'll catch your attention with my sensual voice saying all kinds of dirty words, other sounds such as kisses and slaps play a role in stimulating audibly. You will be so turned on when you hear how wet my pussy gets!

Ultimately I'll make sure you pay attention to the sensations of your own body, instruct you on ways to touch your cock and other erogenous zones to give you the most pleasure ever imagined, provoking all kinds of reactions.


Now talking about erogenous zones, restricting JOI to only touching the cock is too limited! I love to pay attention to other body parts, such as the balls, nipples and ass. Even a slight brush on your neck can make you shiver.

One of my clients enjoys playing with a feather, I tell him to rub it all over his body, his favorite place is on his feet. Another guy that partakes into JOI sessions with me enjoys using a wand vibrator on his balls and cock to spice things up! The options are endless.

Lately, anal and prostate JOI has become popular, especially among people that have never done it before. Some guys can't find their prostate without being oriented to do so, others enjoy touching their ass watching a pretty lady doing the same, and there's a third kind who wants to be bossed around and do it on command. Whichever, we always have fun!. Prostate JOI is one of my favorites!

The other day I had a sexting session with live videos on kik with a very hot man who claimed to be an anal virgin. We started with regular cock JOI and he ended up deflowered with 2 fingers up his ass and a huge load of jizz all over the place.

Seasoned in anal play, some guys come to me to broaden their horizons and stretch their assholes to the maximum. I love making men take king size toys up their asses, some even bigger than the ones I have. There's this special guy who always impresses me with how big his toys are and I cum the hardest watching my anal king.

For some reason, anal play often brings up the submissive side in many people and prostate JOI is a way to awaken the submission that lies within. Just like bisexuality is a thing - one can enjoy straight and homosexual sex at the same time - switching between the Dom and sub role is also very common.

B. is a Dom that loves doing phone sex with me, every time he calls me we start talking about anal and he quickly switches and becomes submissive as I command him to play with his ass for me. The echoes of his orgasms haunt my dreams, it's so hot!


Since we are talking about different ways to do jerk off instruction, what about women? Let me tell you about this super sexy girl called A., a nordic girl with beautiful straight hair and the cutest tattoos.

We've had a few video call sessions and then she asked me to do some custom videos for her. In one of them, I was in the shower, roleplaying an older sister teaching her how to masturbate. On another, I roleplayed as her girlfriend, teasing her with my body and telling her to play with herself to me. I was wearing leggings and a top, which went straight to the laundry because I squirted so hard! A. always makes me squirt real good, and I believe she cums as hard as I do.


To finish, I'm going to tell my own experiences with JOI as the receiver. Yes, not only I'm requested to be the instructor, sometimes clients want to control how I play with myself. One of the coolest ways to do that is by using the lush toy, a remote controlled vibrator that you can play with using your phone.

There's this guy called D who makes me cum so many times that almost convinced me to move to Colorado! LOL He goes beyond controlling how I fuck my pussy, he also gives special attention to my sensitive nipples, to my ass and invented a new way to play with my clit, he spends hours commanding me how to touch my clit with my derma roller - a cosmetic device that works just like an enhanced Wartenberg wheel.


As you can see, JOI is for everyone and can be enjoyed in many amazing different ways. It's a huge turn on to be in either the given or receiving end and every part of our bodies can be the focus of such a session.

Have you ever experienced it? What's your favorite type?

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